In this blog, I share some very personal life struggles, successes, and observations. Hopefully, you will come to understand more about me and how the right mindset, philosophy, and habits around eating, sleeping, fitness, finances, and communication will help you to create the life you deserve. Something very personal for me that is hard for me to talk about is that I was born in Russia in 1992, subsequently abandoned, and spent my first few years of life in a Russian orphanage. Russia was not a good place to be an orphan in the early 1990s. A quick google search can show you that. Then, when I was a little bit over three years old, I was one of the truly fortunate children to be saved and “selected” by an amazing family.
Being abandoned and having no idea why you were given up, who your real family was, or anything about your heritage was really difficult. I do not even have a baby picture, and Adam is not even my “birth name”. It is hard when the most important decision in your life is made and you had no control over that decision. For most of my life, I thought there must have been something wrong with me. Otherwise, why would someone give me up?
These events and struggles in my life had left me with the idea that there must be something truly wrong or why else would I have been abandoned like this. I struggled with shame, lack of self-worth, confidence, and self-esteem. Even today, I still have difficulty at times in these areas. I shy away from physical contact, eye contact, and signs of affection from the ones that deserve it the most.
Some of my most important developmental years were in an orphanage of a foreign country. I lacked basic emotional, social, communication, and learning skills which I still suffer from to this day.
I continue to struggle with reading, writing, speech, and math skills along with expressing and controlling passion and emotions. It always tipped the line when it comes to substance abuse and bad habits. These hurdles and mental walls caused me countless missed opportunities in relationships and leadership opportunities in school, sports, work, and life. In the past few years, I have started to come to terms with my past and have gained a lot of confidence.
I have developed imagination, creativity, listening, watching, and work ethic skills along with passion and enthusiasm. I was born with above-average looks, smiles, and athletic abilities. I was lucky enough to be born in the age of the internet with plenty of audio and visual stimuli and resources to aid in my education and discover who I am and how to share my passions. More importantly, I was truly fortunate to be adopted by a loving family in an amazing country that gave me the best chances to succeed in life and never gave up on me. My family had a knack for finding good people to help me in my journey. I strive to use my talents to better myself every day.
I honestly feel I have no right to be where I am today. There are so many orphans and people throughout the world that simply were not lucky enough to get the opportunity to achieve what I have been able to do in my life. I am truly one of the lucky ones. I am not going to waste the opportunity I was given by my family and technology. As I continue to learn about myself and overcome many of my setbacks, I have come to learn three skills that are essential to living a fulfilling life of no regrets.
1. Create good eating, exercise, and sleep habits. People will come to value how consistent and reliable you are both physically and mentally every day.
2. Invest in learning good financial and investing habits taking control of your own finances and living the life you have always dreamed of.
3. Invest time in learning how to develop and deliver effective messages through writing, speaking, conversation, and a digital presence.
I have come to understand the importance of these skills, mindsets, philosophies, and habits from audiobooks, YouTube, work conversations, and by observing my own and other people’s failures in life.
In future blogs, I will discuss in much more depth how these three principles will allow me to create a lasting legacy and make the greatest impression, give credibility, and potential impact in life, as a role model, coach, employee, employer, friend, parent, and as a citizen of the world.